Anger is not predictable. It can come out of nowhere or be built up from a series of irritations. It affects everyone. We all deal with it at times. As you know sometimes, you don’t always want to feel angry. Anger can sometimes make you act in inappropriate ways. Anger can cause you to do things you would never do otherwise. So what should you do next time you get angry?
1. Inhale and exhale.
When you are angrier than you thought you could be, the best thing you can do is to just take a cleansing breath. When you inhale in deeply through your nose and exhale out deeply through your mouth, it resets your sense of being in the world. You can suddenly think clearly again. You have regained yourself.
2. Take a break.
If it’s a co-worker, friend, or even a boss who is causing anger, you need to breathe. If you are having these anger management issues, you will need to take a little break. Get some air. Have a cup of tea. Go for a walk. Clear your mind and come back to the situation.
3. Imagine yourself being calm.
If you think about yourself acting and feeling calm, you will act and feel calm. Imagine a calming situation. Visualize yourself in a hot bubble bath. Visualize yourself in a sea of puppies. Visualize yourself drinking relaxing tea. Just close your eyes and see yourself feeling calm, and then a magical thing will happen: you will.
4. Actually, count to ten.
Everyone knows about this technique. Your mom told you about it when you were little. It really works, though. The act of counting to ten will make you feel a lot calmer and it will allow you to focus on something aside from your feelings. This is what you need to do when you are feeling angry.
So next time you think your anger is going to consume you, give one of these things a try.