Anger can often overtake the best of us, and the things we do and say when we are angry are often things that we regret. So what can you do when you need to control your anger? Here are a few tips.
1. Be honest about what you are feeling. Suppressing your anger or pretending it is not there doesn’t do anyone any good. Admitting that you are angry is the first step in controlling your anger.
2. Write. Don’t say anything to anyone but grab a notebook or a computer and write down all of your thoughts. Don’t send them to anyone, just write. Allow yourself a chance to get it all out.
3. Channel your energy. Being angry gives you a source of energy that can be used for good. Do some exercise. Listen to music really loudly. Scream into a pillow. You’ll feel better.
4. Look at the big picture. Make a list of everything that you have to be grateful about. Focus on what is right in your life, especially if you are fixated on one thing.
5. Do what you can to improve the situation. Wait until the anger has subsided and decide the best way to act to improve the situation.
6. Share with a trusted friend or family member. If there is someone you can confide in, it may be helpful to tell them why you are so angry.
The main thing you have to remember is that you are in control of your emotions. Your emotions are not in control of you. You want to do whatever you can to express your anger by yourself and get it out of your system before you address the person you are angry with. You may even want to wait 24 hours to talk to the person.
Anger is something that can be controlled if you take a deep breath and learn how to control your anger. Some of this will require some discipline. It might be more immediately gratifying to call up the person you are angry with and cuss them out, but in the long term, it’s a lot better to wait until your anger has subsided and you can be more logical.